I have a dear friend in my life that I have the pleasure of seeing about twice a year. She’s approximately 35 years my senior and has been a mentor to me in the areas of faith, prayer, marriage, grace, and integrity. She’s an amazing woman and I’m blessed to call her my friend. Year after year, whenever we get together I always begin the conversation with “How are you doing? How have you been?” and her response is always the same “Chile, I’m trying to get this weight off”. I always chuckle at this reply because she’s gracefully beautiful and in great shape. I soon realized that she, with all her awesomeness, has fallen into the same groove as many other women: we stress about our weight without cause. Stressing about your weight affects other areas in your life; in particular it dampens your intimate relationships, both intellectually and physically. Turn up the heat on your relationships this summer by deciding to remove weight stress from your plate. No more stress about weight.
Imagine if you will a world with no scales and no dress sizes. All of your clothes are custom made and the true measure of beauty is based on your blood pressure, AC1 levels, cholesterol, flexibility, heart rate, kidney function, skin and hair condition, emotional/mental outlook and other things along this line. In that world, your focus would be solely on your self-care. Beauty and self image goals would stem from overall health instead of social events and impressing others. Your diet and nutrition choices would be about how food affects your wellness and not the effect on your wardrobe.
Self-care is a key component of intimate relationships. Women who value themselves enough to care for their bodies and emotions are more open to someone else caring for them at the same level or greater. In other words when you take good care of you physically and emotional, you expect your closest friends to care for you in the same way. When they do, you grow closer (intimacy). When they don’t you move on (standards). Learning to shift your focus from your weight to your overall wellbeing and care will lead to deeper relationships.
Turn up the heat on your relationships this summer by learning to identify what’s best for you: physically, emotionally and social. Begin by shifting your focus from the scale and dress sizes to your overall wellness. Ask yourself everyday “what do I need today to be healthy and happy?” give yourself permission to pursue it and continue your pursuit until your daily wellness needs are met. This renewed focus on taking care of you will spill over into your social life and cause you to deepen your relationships with the people you care about most. You’ll become comfortable with being deeply loved by you and others, and regularly stressing about your weight will end.