I was reconnecting with some old friends recently and, while we were drinking some of the best lattes I've ever had the pleasure of tasting, the topic of spiritual parenting came up. It seems nowadays people claim to have spiritual parents in people who don't know their name or whom they've never met. What kind of parent is that? I want someone who isn't afraid of my mess, who knows me – the good, the bad, the ugly – and loves me in spite of it and through it. I want someone who isn't afraid to tell me the truth even when it stings. I want a mentor that will not try to just be my best friend but will set healthy boundaries and call me out on my junk…cause honey, we've all got junk.
Now, I HATED it when the girls I mentored called me mom. I told them I was much too young to be their mother and it made me feel old. They tried to humor me, but it still would slip out occasionally. Then the Lord rebuked me. He told me to embrace the spiritual motherhood. He told me to prepare myself to love deeper and embrace the pain that comes with it. He was birthing a mommy heart in me.
“All women are not mothers, but all women are called to mother. To mother is to nurture, to train, to educate, to rear…all women are uniquely gifted to help others in their lives become more of who they truly are. In doing this, women partner with Christ in the vital mission of bringing forth life.”
– Captivating, John & Stasi Eldridge –
The truth about mommy-hood is that it's terrible. It's hard. So many times I have cried with my girls and felt the burn in my heart when I cannot fix their problems or heal their vulnerable hearts. I can't make their lives easier. I weep with them when they weep, I rejoice with them when they rejoice, and it's hard. Really, really, hard. I want to fix things and I want to make it all better. But in all this I'm reminded that I'm not the Savior or the Fixer. I'm merely a momma who can point them to the Healer, and speak life and bring hope. I can share wisdom and strength. And if the Lord says I can mom these girls and show them just a glimpse of His love through my life and my example, then I'm pretty okay with it.
Do every day well // +dF
Dre Fillmore founded Awakening Ministries in April of 2014. Awakening was birthed out of her personal mentorship of local college students. After serving in youth, young adult, and worship ministries for over a decade she began to see the 18-35 demographic (Gen Y) on the verge of exploding in their influence across the globe. Dre has a passion to awaken younger generations to their identity and destiny in Christ by empowering them to do every day well. In addition, Dre coaches and consults worship teams, and also speaks to pastors and leaders about understanding generational differences in the church and assisting them in bridging generational gaps.Dre is a 2001 graduate of Rhema Bible Training Center and holds a certificate in Youth Ministry and is currently pursuing a Bachelor’s Degree in Church Leadership. Outside of ministry, she is passionate about music, coffee, and travel…and coffee. Lots of coffee.
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