Author: Sharyn Kopf

If What Jesus Did Wasn’t Enough

We have a tendency to think in terms of fairness.  Well, I do anyway.  Why does she get a husband but not me?  Why is he so successful?  Why can't my dreams come true like everyone else's?   But this Easter weekend, I'm reminded again that Jesus didn't suffer and die so I could have a fair life.  He didn't take on the sin of all humanity in order to make me happy.  His sacrifice was so I wouldn't, in fact, get what I deserve.   King David wrote in Psalm 103: He will not always strive with us, Nor will He keep His anger forever.   He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor punished us according to our iniquities. I spend so much time being caught up in my needs and wants, completely forgetting to fall on my knees in gratitude.  But I realize that's like saying, "What you did on the cross wasn't enough, Jesus.  I want more.  Your sacrifice gave me eternal life, sure, but what about this other stuff?  What about my husband, my big house, my great job?  When are you going to see to that?" The fact is, God doesn't deal in fairness but in holiness.  My life exists for HIs gory, no my happiness.  If my singleness brings honor to Him, then I should strive to excel in...

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Tearing Down Walls

I'll admit I'm a bit of a Facebook junkie.  I love the connections I've made, the friendships that have been strengthened, and the gradual advantage it has been to my career.  Unfortunately, I've also seen the dark side of Facebook…and it isn't pretty. It started innocently enough.  A friend posted something silly on her wall.  One of her male friends – someone I don't know – remarked, "You are so funny!  How are you still single?!"  That made me laugh and I couldn't resist replying, "If men wanted funny, I'd know a lot fewer single women." This stranger, who, it would seem, doesn't share my sense of humor, responded, "I take it you're single, Ms. Kopf.  By the way, your bitter is showing." Ouch.  Clearly a response to Mr. Insensitive was warranted but where would I start?  When I made the comment, I wasn't motivated by any bitter feelings; I just wanted to be funny.  Sure, I believed there was some truth to what I wrote, but I don't think I was being mean about it.  men aren't necessarily beating down the doors to date witty women.  A sense of humor can be a must-have for a lot of girls when it comes to liking a man, but, in my experience, it's not high on the list for most guys.  That's okay with me.  It's just the way we're...

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We Interrupt This Winter

As I write this, much of the country is being buried under massive amounts of snow.  A text from my sister today said the snow at their house was getting to the point of being unmanageable.  They’d been out multiple times during the day clearing walkways and their long driveway.  The snow is currently piled high in their yard.  Piles that reach almost to the waist of her 6’2 husband certainly do seem overkill. Granted, we aren’t getting as much snow here, but when it snowed for most of the afternoon on Saturday, Dad commented that at least it was keeping the grass nice and green.  A little moisture is a good thing in our dry, high desert landscape.  Christians know a little spiritual moisture is needed to fuel the green growth of renewal in our lives.  We know revival often comes as the result of rains an snows in our lives.  It’s a given that the hard times often provide the water that is so important to our faith. Too often, though, instead of the wet, snow that sinks quickly into the earth, we get slammed with a storm that dumps snow upon snow in our life.  It piles up all around us and threatens to bury us.  We throw our hands up and exclaim, “Enough already.” Come spring, the area my sister lives in will be green...

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Can I Get A Witness?

Something cool happened to me last week but I was alone at the time and forgot to write it down.  Does that ever happen to you?  I wanted to tell someone; now I’ll have to wait and see if, someday, I remember – and if I’m in a situation where I can share the story at that time.  So it is, instead, merely a part of my history that, quite possibly, no one will ever share with me.  Of course, there are many times when that’s probably a good thing.  Let’s be realistic.  Sure, the night I pulled my Stouffer’s out of the oven but hit the edge of the rack, causing the tray of barbecue chicken and potatoes to flip up in the air and land upside down on the oven door might have caused a few chuckles.  Once I started cleaning and venting, though, the fun would have been over.  Still, I wish I would stop forgetting some of those funny or sweet or serendipitous moments that might have led to laughs or tears, or simply made someone smile like it did me.  Did you see the moving Shall We Dance?  With Richard Gere?  He plays a lawyer named John who starts taking dance lessons from Jennifer Lopez.  His wife, Beverly (Susan Sarandon), decides to hire a private detective to find out if John is cheating on...

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More Than We Can Bear

Recently, a friend of mine shared some thoughts on Facebook that I appreciated so much, I thought I would share them here. There’s a little standard saying that continues to make the rounds in times of trouble: “God will never give you more than you can handle.”  Sounds good.  Guess to some it sounds true as they tend to share it with others in a meaningful way to offer comfort. The problem with this saying is it doesn’t tell the whole truth…the true-to-life, day-by-day, honest-to-goodness-reality-of-life-truth. What is that truth?  God will give you more – much more – than...

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